When we don’t want to leave a relationship, we tend to linger on the past happy moments of the relationship. We set our minds on past memories to the extent that we forget the unhappiness that we experience. As you practice your exit approach, focus on framing your needs and wants as yours and yours alone.
If there are any big things that you don’t see eye to eye on that you know could break you up later on, there might be a case for ending things now. If you aren’t willing to put that effort in, then you’ve got your answer. It means your relationship will probably start to show the cracks when life puts it under strain. Of course, your happiness should never entirely depend on your relationship status. You need to do what’s right, and as we all know, what’s right isn’t necessarily always what’s easy. Unfortunately, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this one.
Deciding whether or not to end a relationship can be one of the most difficult choices you’ll ever have to make. However, there are certain signs that may indicate it’s time to let go and move on.
Do you want to be with your partner for the person they are, truly, right here and now? In any relationship, there are times when one partner takes more than gives; equal and perfect reciprocity can rarely be maintained all the time. That said, sometimes someone might feel constantly exhausted by a partner — even if that partner isn’t really doing much to be exhausting. Of course, we must keep in mind that deciding you’re better off alone when you’ve been married for 35 years is very different than deciding you’re better off alone after your fourth date. In a future post, we’ll address the steps to take to extract yourself most healthily from a relationship.
“I find people have a hard time articulating what has happened in those interactions, they can’t quite put it into words.” “[People] don’t exactly feel criticized — not openly — but they keep feeling like they’ve somehow been made to feel slightly less or they keep having to prove themselves,” he says. If it’s a regular occurrence in your relationship, then it’s a definite red flag.
1. Lack of Communication
A healthy relationship relies on open and honest communication. If you find yourselves constantly arguing or unable to have meaningful conversations, it may be a sign that the relationship is no longer serving either of you.
At that point, it’s best for partner partners to let go and walk away to avoid suffering, and so that they can find happier and more stable relationships. The seventh indicator that it may be time to leave a relationship, is when you are with someone in the hopes that they will change. If you are staying in a relationship hoping that the other person will change, you’re in it for the wrong reasons. To become more empowered, learn how to change your self-talk and replace negativity with positivity.
Don’t be one of those people who waste years of their lives being in an unhappy relationship just because you’re scared of being alone. Also, if active, continual harm is happening, that makes the relationship too damaging to continue. For example, in the case of emotional or physical abuse, if the abuser is willing to keep trying but the partner being abused is continually hurt, sometimes trying isn’t good enough. If this is the case, it may be the most healing and helpful to end the relationship. This type of relationship comes with well-being benefits, too. Many people in maturing relationships forget how to listen carefully without jumping to conclusions, especially with regard to what their partners are actually feeling or thinking.
2. Disrespect
If your partner consistently disrespects you, whether it be through hurtful words or actions, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship. Respect is essential for a strong and healthy partnership.
3. Unhappiness
If you find yourself feeling unhappy more often than not in the relationship, it may be a clear indication that it’s time to leave. Your emotional well-being should always be a top priority.
4. Lack of Trust
Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship. If you find yourself constantly doubting your partner or vice versa, it may be a sign that the trust has been broken beyond repair.
5. Different Goals and Values
If you and your partner have fundamentally different goals and values in life, it may lead to long-term conflict and dissatisfaction. It’s important to be with someone who shares similar aspirations and values.
6. Abuse
If you are experiencing any form of abuse in the relationship, whether it be physical, emotional, or verbal, it is crucial to prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. Seek help and support to leave the relationship as soon as possible.
Ultimately, only you can decide what is best for you in your relationship. If any of these signs resonate with you, it may be time to consider leaving the relationship and focusing on your own happiness and well-being.
